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11.12.2010

幸福?

可隨手得到的, 並不是幸福. 沒有煩惱也不幸福.若常常受寵愛, 只會使人變得自我,輕 視他人和內心貧乏.
即使現在 陷於苦境, 仍燃起希望, 一步一步地攀登苦 勞的付斜坡, 一點一滴地積聚起力量,實現自己的夢想. 這樣的人才可能深刻感受到真正的喜悅, 其人生也是美麗無比的.

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6.11.2010

What is happiness!

Daisaku Ikeda

What is Happiness?


What is the purpose of life? It is to become happy. Whatever country or society people live in, they all have the same deep desire: to become happy.

Yet, there are few ideals as difficult to grasp as that of happiness. In our daily life we constantly experience happiness and unhappiness, but we are still quite ignorant as to what happiness really is.

A young friend of mine once spent a long time trying to work out what happiness was, particularly happiness for women. When she first thought about happiness she saw it as a matter of becoming financially secure or getting married. (The view in Japanese society then was that happiness for a woman was only to be found in marriage.) But looking at friends who were married, she realized that marriage didn't necessarily guarantee happiness.

She saw couples who had been passionately in love suffering from discord soon after their wedding. She saw women who had married men with money or status but who fought constantly with their husbands.

Gradually, she realized that the secret of happiness lay in building a strong inner self that no trial or hardship could ruin. She saw that happiness for anyone — man or woman — does not come simply from having a formal education, from wealth or from marriage. It begins with having the strength to confront and conquer one's own weaknesses. Only then does it become possible to lead a truly happy life and enjoy a successful marriage.

She finally told me, "Now I can say with confidence that happiness doesn't exist in the past or in the future. It only exists within our state of life right now, here in the present, as we face the challenges of daily life."

I agree entirely. You yourself know best whether you are feeling joy or struggling with suffering. These things are not known to other people. Even a man who has great wealth, social recognition and many awards may still be shadowed by indescribable suffering deep in his heart. On the other hand, an elderly woman who is not fortunate financially, leading a simple life alone, may feel the sun of joy and happiness rising in her heart each day.

Happiness is not a life without problems, but rather the strength to overcome the problems that come our way. There is no such thing as a problem-free life; difficulties are unavoidable. But how we experience and react to our problems depends on us. Buddhism teaches that we are each responsible for our own happiness or unhappiness. Our vitality — the amount of energy or "life-force" we have — is in fact the single most important factor in determining whether or not we are happy.

True happiness is to be found within, in the state of our hearts. It does not exist on the far side of some distant mountains. It is within you, yourself. However much you try, you can never run away from yourself. And if you are weak, suffering will follow you wherever you go. You will never find happiness if you don't challenge your weaknesses and change yourself from within.

Happiness is to be found in the dynamism and energy of your own life as you struggle to overcome one obstacle after another. This is why I believe that a person who is active and free from fear is truly happy.

The challenges we face in life can be compared to a tall mountain, rising before a mountain climber. For someone who has not trained properly, whose muscles and reflexes are weak and slow, every inch of the climb will be filled with terror and pain. The exact same climb, however, will be a thrilling journey for someone who is prepared, whose legs and arms have been strengthened by constant training. With each step forward and up, beautiful new views will come into sight.

My teacher used to talk about two kinds of happiness — "relative" and "absolute" happiness. Relative happiness is happiness that depends on things outside ourselves: friends and family, surroundings, the size of our home or family income.

This is what we feel when a desire is fulfilled, or something we have longed for is obtained. While the happiness such things bring us is certainly real, the fact is that none of this lasts forever. Things change. People change. This kind of happiness shatters easily when external conditions alter.

Relative happiness is also based on comparison with others. We may feel this kind of happiness at having a newer or bigger home than the neighbors. But that feeling turns to misery the moment they start making new additions to theirs!

Absolute happiness, on the other hand, is something we must find within. It means establishing a state of life in which we are never defeated by trials and where just being alive is a source of great joy. This persists no matter what we might be lacking, or what might happen around us. A deep sense of joy is something which can only exist in the innermost reaches of our life, and which cannot be destroyed by any external forces. It is eternal and inexhaustible.

This kind of satisfaction is to be found in consistent and repeated effort, so that we can say, "Today, again, I did my very best. Today, again, I have no regrets. Today, again, I won." The accumulated result of such efforts is a life of great victory.

What we should compare is not ourselves against others. We should compare who we are today against who we were yesterday, who we are today against who we will be tomorrow. While this may seem simple and obvious, true happiness is found in a life of constant advancement. And the same worries that could have made us miserable can actually be a source of growth when we approach them with courage and wisdom.

One friend whose dramatic life proved this was Natalia Satz, who founded the first children's theater in Moscow. In the 1930s, she and her husband were marked by Soviet Union's secret police. Even though they were guilty of no crime, her husband was arrested and executed and she was sent to a prison camp in the frozen depths of Siberia.

After she recovered from the initial shock, she started looking at her situation, not with despair, but for opportunity. She realized that many of her fellow prisoners had special skills and talents. She began organizing a "university," encouraging the prisoners to share their knowledge. "You. You are a scientist. Teach us about science. You are an artist. Talk to us about art."

In this way, the boredom and terror of the prison camp were transformed into the joy of learning and teaching. Eventually, Mrs. Satz even made use of her own unique talents to organize a theater group. She survived the five-year prison sentence, and dedicated the rest of her long life to creating children's theater. When we met for the first time in Moscow in 1981, she was already in her 80s. She was as radiant and buoyant as a young girl. Her smile was the smile of someone who has triumphed over the hardships of life. Hers is the kind of spirit I had in mind when I wrote the following poem on "Happiness":

A person with a vast heart is happy.
Such a person lives each day with a broad and embracing spirit.
A person with a strong will is happy.
Such a person can confidently enjoy life, never defeated by suffering.
A person with a profound spirit is happy.
Such a person can savor life's depths
while creating meaning and value that will last for eternity.
A person with a pure mind is happy.
Such a person is always surrounded by refreshing breezes of joy.


This short essay is adapted from..
http://www.ikedaquotes.org/contents/short_essays/happiness.html

There's also another meaningful essay "on Women's Beauty" in the website.
Also, check out all those quotes.
Truly inspiring.

1.23.2009

Preciousness


This morning I made this treasury. I put many of my though into it. It just suddenly had something want to share.

What is precious thing for you? I am thankful that I wake up every day in good health.
I am grateful that I can hear, read, taste, smell and feel. I have place to live, go anywhere I want, create anything I love to my shops. These are freedom, fortune and hope. Those things are precious to me. :) we might encounter many obstacles and difficulties every day but don't give up, without them we can't favor the real happiness. :)

11.10.2008

We should seek challenge!

I have seen this guidance from my mentor - Mr. Ikeda

He said:
People do not grow when their environment is too comfortable,
when they are not challenged. It is in the very midst of suffering
and hardship that character is formed. Once we have decided
to accomplish something, we must see it through to the end.
A certain amount of problems and difficulties is only to be expected.




10.10.2008

Spiritual Chicken Soup 心靈雞湯

It is in times of adversity that one's spirit must blaze.
It is in times of adversity that one must fight with courage.
This is the way of the lion. Even if they are many in umber,
cowardly people who are quickto start complaining cannot do anything.
When one is faced with the most difficult of circumstances,
one can make the cause to realise the greatest victory.
-- by Daisaku Ikeda --

7.21.2008

Daily Encouragement 20 July


An absence of suffering does not equal happiness.

Happiness depends on developing the state of mind

where one is able to transform all sufferings into joy.

This rigorous struggle in turn gives rise to

immense satisfaction and value.


7.09.2008

Uploaded to the shop another piece of my calligraphy yesterday - Joy.
I hope everyone will enjoy the summer time with the boundless joy
like this kitty kitten. (=^-^=)


11.25.2007

一碗湯麵

Received this morning from a friend of mine, interesting topic so I read it but usually I don't read long story. This story is full of human kindness. /Amanda


主題: 一碗湯麵

這是一個真實的故事,故事名稱我們叫它做一碗湯麵。

這個故事是十五年前的十二月三十一日,也就是除夕夜,發生在日本札幌街上一家「北海亭」的麵館裡。除夕夜吃蕎麵條過年是日本人的傳統習俗,因此到了這一天,麵館的生意特別好,北海亭也不例外,這一天幾乎整天都客滿,不過到晚上十點以後幾乎就沒有客人了,平時到凌晨,街上都還很熱鬧的,這一天大家都早一點趕回家過年,因此街上也很快就安靜下來。
北海亭的老闆是個憨憨傻傻的老實人,老闆娘倒很古道熱腸,待人親切。
除夕夜,最後一個客人走出麵館,老闆娘正打算關店的時候,店門再一次輕輕地被拉開,一個女人帶著兩個小男孩走進來,兩個孩子大約是六歲和十歲左右,穿著全新的一模一樣的運動服,那女人卻穿著過時的格子舊大衣。

「請坐!」聽老闆這麼招呼,那個女人怯怯的說:「可不可以....來一碗 ..
..湯麵?」背後的兩個孩子不安地對望了一眼。

「當然....當然可以 ,請這邊坐!」

老闆娘帶著他們走到最靠邊的二號桌子,然後向廚臺那邊大聲喊著:
「一碗湯麵!」

一人份只有一團麵,老板多丟了半團麵,煮了滿滿一大碗,老闆娘和
客人都不知道。母子三人圍著一碗湯麵吃得津津有味,一邊吃,一邊悄悄地談著:「好好吃喲!」哥哥說。

「媽,您也吃吃看嘛!」弟弟說著,挾了一根麵條往母親嘴裡送。

不一會兒吃完了 ,付了一百五十元,母子三人同聲誇讚:

「真好吃 ,謝謝!」並且微微了鞠了一躬,走出麵館。

「謝謝你們!新年快樂!」老闆和老闆娘同時這麼說。

每天忙著忙著,不知不覺很快地又過了一年。又到了十二月三十一日這一天;迎接新的一年,北海亭的生意仍然非常興旺。比去年除夕夜更忙碌的一天終於結束了,過了十點,老闆娘走向店門前,正想將門拉下的時候,店門又再度輕輕地被拉開,走進來了一位中年婦人另外帶著兩個小孩。老闆娘看到那件過時的格子舊大衣,馬上想起一年前除夕夜最後的客人。

「可以不可以....給我們煮碗 ......湯麵?」

「當然,當然 ,請邊坐!」

老闆娘一邊帶他們到去年坐過的二號桌子,一邊大聲喊:「一碗湯麵!」

老闆一邊應聲,一邊點上剛剛熄掉的爐火。

「是的!一碗湯麵!」老闆娘偷偷地在丈夫的耳朵旁說著。

「喂,煮三碗給他們吃好不好?」「不行,這樣做他們會不好意思的。」

丈夫一邊這麼回答,卻一邊多丟進半團麵條到滾燙的鍋子裡,站在旁邊一直微笑著看著他的妻子說:「你看起來挺呆板的, 心地倒還不錯嘛!」
丈夫默默地盛好一大碗香噴噴的麵交給妻子端出去。母子三人圍著那碗麵,邊吃邊談論著,那些對話也傳到了老闆和老闆娘的耳朵裡。

「好香....好棒 ....真好吃....!」

「今年還能吃到北海亭的麵,真不錯!」

「明年能夠再來吃,就好了....!」

吃完了付了一百五十元,母子三人又走出了北海亭。

「謝謝!祝你們新年快樂!」

望著這母子三人的背影,老闆夫婦倆反覆談論了些久。
這三年的除夕夜,北海亭的生意仍然非常的好,老闆夫婦彼此忙到甚麼都沒時間講話,但是過了九點半,兩個人開始都有點不安了起來。十點到了,店員們領了紅包也回去了,主人急忙將牆壁上的價目表一張一張往裡翻,把今年夏天漲價的 :「湯麵一碗二百元」那張價目表,重新寫上一百五十元。二號桌上面,三十分鐘前老闆娘就先放上一張:「預約席」的卡片。
好像有意等客人都光了才進來似的,十點半的時候,這對母子三人終於又出現了。哥哥穿著國中的制服,弟弟穿著去年哥哥穿過的稍嫌大一點的夾克,兩個孩子都長大很多,母親仍然穿著那件褪了色的格子布舊大衣。

「請進!請進!」老闆娘熱情的招呼著。

望著笑臉相迎的老闆娘,母親戰戰兢地說:「麻煩 ....麻煩煮兩碗湯麵好不好?」

「好的,請這邊坐!」

老闆娘招待他們坐到二號桌 ,趕快若無其事的將那「預約席」的卡片藏起來,然後向裡面喊著:「兩碗湯麵 ! 」

「是的!兩碗湯麵!馬上就好了呦!」老闆一邊應聲,一邊丟進了三團麵進去。

母子三人一邊吃麵,一邊談著話,看起來很高興的樣子。

站在廚臺後面的老闆夫婦也跟著感受他們的喜悅,內心也跟著喜悅起來。

「小淳和哥哥;媽媽今天要謝謝你們兩個人啊!」

「謝謝!」

「為甚麼?」

「是這樣的,你們過世的爸爸所造成八個人受傷的車禍,保險公司不能支付的部份,這幾年來每個月都必需繳五萬元。」

「欸,這個我們知道呀!」哥哥這麼回答。老闆娘一動也不動的靜靜聽著。

「本來應該繳到明年三月的,但是今天已全數繳完了!」

「哦,媽媽,真的呀?」

「欸,真的。因為哥哥認真的送報,小淳幫忙買菜做飯,使媽媽可以安心工作,公司發給我一份全勤的特別加給,因此今天就將剩下的部份就全部繳完了。」

「媽!哥哥!真是太好了,不過以後請讓小淳繼續做晚飯。」

「我也要繼續送報紙。小淳,加油!」

「謝謝你們弟兄倆,真的謝謝!」

「小淳和我有一個秘密,一直都沒有跟媽媽您說,那是 ....十一月的一個禮拜天,小淳的學校通知家長要去參觀教學課程,小淳的老師還特別附了一封信,說小淳的一篇文章被選為全北海道的代表,將參加全國的作文比賽。我聽小淳的同學說才知道的,因此;那一天我代表媽去參觀了。」

「真有這回事?後來呢?」

「老師出的題目是『我的志願』,小淳是以一碗湯麵為題寫的作文,還要當眾讀這篇作文。」

「作文是這樣寫的:爸爸車禍了,留下很多債務,為了還債,媽媽從早到晚拚命工作,連我每天早晚認真送報的事,弟弟也全部寫出來了。」

「還有,十二月三十一日晚上,我們母子三人共同吃一碗湯麵,非常好吃 ....三個人只叫一碗湯麵,麵店的伯伯和伯母竟然還向我們道謝,並且祝我們新年快樂!那聲音好像在鼓勵我們要堅強勇敢的活下去,趕緊把爸爸留下的債務還清!」

「因此小淳決定長大以後要開麵館,當日本第一的麵館老闆,也要對每一個客人說加油!祝你幸福!謝謝你!」

一直站在廚臺裡聽他們對話的老闆夫婦突然失去蹤影,原來他們蹲下來,一條毛巾一人抓一頭,拼命擦著不斷湧出來的淚水。

「作文讀完了,老師說:小淳的哥哥今天代表媽媽來了,請上來說幾句話。」

「真的?那麼你怎麼辦?」

「因為太突然了,開始不知說甚麼好。我就說:謝謝大家平時對小淳的關愛,我弟弟每天必須買菜做晚飯,常常會在團體活動中急忙地回家,一定給大家添了許多麻煩,剛剛我弟弟讀一碗湯麵的時候,我曾感到很羞恥,但是看見弟弟挺胸大聲讀完一碗湯麵的時候,感到羞恥的那種心情才是真正的羞恥。」

「這些年來....媽媽只叫一碗湯麵的那種勇氣,我們兄弟絕對不會忘記 .....我們兄弟一定會好好努力,好好的照顧母親,今後仍然拜託個位多多關照我弟弟。」

母子三個悄悄地握握手,拍拍肩,比往年都快樂地吃完過年的麵,付了三百元,說聲謝謝!並且鞠了躬走出麵館,望著母子三人的背影,老闆好像做個一年的總結束似地大聲說:「謝謝!新年快樂!」

又過了一年。
北海亭麵館過了晚上九點,二號桌上又放了一塊「預約席」的卡片等待著,但是那母子三人並沒出現。

第二年、第三年、二號桌仍然空著,三個母子都再沒有出現。 北海亭的生意越來越好,店內全部都改裝過,桌椅都換了新的,只有那張二號桌仍然保留著。

「這究竟是怎麼一回事?」許多客人都覺得奇怪,這樣問。
老闆娘就講述關於一碗湯麵的故事給大家聽,那張舊桌子放在中央,對自己好像也是一種鼓勵,而且說不定那一天那三個客人還會再來,希望仍然用這張桌子來歡迎他們。

那張二號桌變成了「幸福的桌子」,客人一個個傳開去,有許多學生好奇,為了看那張桌子,專程從老遠的地方跑來吃麵,大家都特別定要坐那桌子。

又過了很多年十二月三十一日。

北海亭附近的商店主人,到了除夕這天打烊以後,都會帶著家眷集合到北海亭來吃麵,一邊吃,一邊等著聽除夕的鐘聲,然後大家一起到神社去拜拜,這是五六年來的習慣。
這一天過了九點半,先是魚店夫婦端來一大盤生魚片,接著又有人斷斷續續地帶酒菜來,經常都集合了三、四十個人,大家都很熱絡;每個人都知道二號桌的由來,大家嘴裡甚麼都不講 ,但是心裡卻想著那「除夕的預約席」今年可能又空空地迎接新年了。

有人吃麵,有人喝酒,有人忙進忙出準備菜餚,大家邊吃邊談,生意上的話。連海水浴的事,最近了添了孫子......., 無所不談,打成一片,像一家人,過了十點半,門突然再度被輕輕地被拉開。

所有的人都停止談話,視線一起朝向門口望去。

兩個青年穿著筆挺的西裝,手上拿著大衣走進來,大家鬆了一口氣,繼續恢復熱鬧的氣氛,老闆娘正準備說「抱歉,己經客滿了」拒絕客人的時候,有一個穿和服的女人走進來,站到兩個青年人的中間。

店內所有的客人都屏住呼吸,聽那穿和服的婦人慢慢地說:「麻煩..... 麻煩....湯麵 ....三人份可以嗎?」

老闆娘的臉色馬上就變了,經過了十幾年的歲月,當時年輕母親和兩個小孩的形象,和眼前這三人,她瞬間努力想把畫面重疊在一起,廚臺後的老闆看傻了,手指交互的指著二個人,「你們 ....你們 .....」地說不出話來。


其中有一個青年望著不知措的老闆娘說:「我們母子三人,曾在十四年前的除夕夜叫了一份湯麵,受到那一碗湯麵的鼓勵,我們母子三人才能堅強的活下去。」

「後來我們搬到滋賀縣的外婆家住,我今年己通過醫師的檢定考試,在京都大學醫院的小兒科實習,明年四月將要來札幌的綜合醫院服務。」

「我們禮貌上先來拜訪這家醫院,順便去父親的墓前祭拜,和曾經想當麵店大老闆未成,現在在京都銀行就職的弟弟商量,有一個最奢侈的計劃.....

就是今年除夕,母子三人要來拜訪札幌的北海亭,吃三人份的北海亭湯麵。」

一邊聽一邊微微點頭的老闆夫婦,眼眶裡溢滿淚水。

坐在門口的菜店老闆,把嘴裡含著的一口麵用力咯一聲整口吞了下去,然後站起來說:「喂、喂、老闆,怎麼啦?準備了十年一直等待這一天來臨,那個除夕十點過後的預約席呢?趕快招待他們啊!快呀 !」

老闆娘終於恢復神志,拍了一下菜店老闆的肩膀,說:「歡迎,請.... 。喂!二號桌三碗湯麵」

那個傻愣愣的老闆擦了一下眼淚,應聲說:「是的,湯麵三碗 !」

從現實的眼光來看,麵店老闆所付出的並不多,但是,即使那只是幾個麵團,和幾聲誠懇帶有勉勵,祝福之意的「謝謝,新年快樂!」卻使正受殘酷現實逼迫陷入困境的生命重獲生機,這個故事給我們一啟示:

不要忽視自己對這個環境的影響力,也許你那些微真誠的關懷,就會給這個世界帶來無限的光明。

因此,我們多麼熱切希望和企望。朋友,不要再吝嗇了,希望今後我們都能願意奉獻自己久藏的愛心,點亮它吧!即使那只是一點點的亮光而已,對寒冷的冬夜而言,卻也是真真實實溫暖和光明。

哈囉!看完了這長篇故事,眼睛累不累啊,做個眼睛運動吧,左眼轉轉,換右眼,右眼轉完,兩眼一起轉,到時脫窗不要找我,找醫生!這個故事在日本發表時,感動了許多日本人,因此有了這麼一個說法:「看了這個故事的人,沒有一個不流淚的。」這個說法稍嫌誇大了些,但是看過這個故事的人的確有許多都為之感動落淚。然而他們流得不是感傷的淚,而是被那一份真誠的關愛,和那一片寬厚的心腸所感動的熱淚。


感動嗎 ?這篇文章在現今這功利主義當道的社會中,多麼溫馨 .感人!

1.06.2007

池田大作國際會長 - 每日箴言

祝大家2007年,新年進步,一定會好過舊年!
在此我想同大家分享"池田大作國際會長"給我們的[每日箴言].
是用一個月1-31日來算.

1日
今天也身體健康!
今天也無事故!
這就是我們的價值創造!

2日
一個家庭
就是和平,文化及教育的基礎
每天也要一家和樂!
每天也要取得勝利!

3日
聖訓教導
(所謂大願就是法華弘通.)
讓我們一起渡過
挽救民眾的
帥弟不二的人生吧!

4日
說話是表達人的心意.
祈願朋馳幸福的祥和心意
定能使對方的心
也暖熱起來.
讓我們展開對話
在人心裡點起明燈!

5日
(要成為一個不可或缺的人)
這是初代會長的箴言.
無論在工作崗位或者是在地區裡
我們也要成為
深受信賴的人.

6日
不忘原點的人
一生是勝利的人!
不忘感謝的人
一生是幸福的!

今日就到此為止吧,我已用了左45分鐘來寫呢. 要多多練才行.

5.04.2006

今天的忍耐

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今天的忍耐
明日的希望
今天的挑戰
明天的勝利
這裡有不滅的光榮!
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4.28.2006

突然心血來潮想說一點佛法.容許我就在這裡說一會吧,只是一點擇要。

大聖人說:
[我和我的弟子,
雖然有各種苦難,
如果沒有疑心,
則會自然地到達佛界。]
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擁有不撓確信的意志的人,
能超越任何看似無法克服的物質力量。
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正邪的選擇由你自己決定,
而我選擇走正義之大道。

將來一定會明確清楚其意義的!
因為從我自身的體驗來說,
我明確地感受到,
讓我命運逆轉的正是正確的信仰。
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在法難中奮鬥的南條時光,
一定有許多煩惱。
但是,這些都能變毒為藥,
培養出能看破卑劣惡行的眼光,
成長為正義的勇士。

大聖人稱讚戰勝迫害的時光為、[賢人],
說:...我的願望是,我的弟子等必須發大願、
[何不為‵法華經‵捨命!]

青年啊!面對任何困難都不要屈服,
要成為堅強勇敢的[正義]勝利者。
要抬頭挺胸,成為打敗任何深懷嫉妒的卑劣傢伙的正義賢人!
要將勝利作為自己的信念,歡喜地活於廣宣流布的大願!

-擇自"人道世紀之光" 山本伸一

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有正義的人就有勇氣,
有勇氣的人就有人格。

4.24.2006

人間革命

無論狀況怎樣困難
自己也要堅強!
這就是人間革命!